Friday, November 7, 2014

Grieving a loved one

Recently, I wrote this article about the passing of my beloved grandfather/ Pop.  It will be published in Grief Digest, but just in case you don't read this (haha) I am putting it up on my blog.


His Bird


Head on the soft, dewy grass.  Tick-Tock.  Legs tucked in to my chest.  Tick-Tock.  Hands folded beneath my cheek.  Tick-Tock.  The sun shines light on the golden Timex creating a blinding glow, so I close my eyes.  Tick-Tock. 
For 39 years he called me his bird.  With my blue eyes as wide as saucers and a little pointy nose, I followed his every step through the hallways.  His enormous key chain jingled on the hoop of his navy pants.  Being a building superintendent was his second job.  If a faucet was leaky, he would show up with a wrench.  If a lock was broken, it was replaced with a brand new one.  If a mouse appeared, traps were set.  There was never a dull moment.  Yet, out of all the adventures we pursued, my favorite was the trip to the mysterious basement.
“Please, please, please!!! Can I come down there with you? Please!” I cried.
“How can I resist those eyes?” he asked. “I need to check a few things.
As I skipped into the elevator, I grabbed his hand.  Tick-Tock.  Beneath the hair and grease, I noticed the gleam of metal against his olive skin.  Quickly, I jabbed my thumb on the B button.  With each creak and moan of the aged contraption, my stomach was filled with horrific excitement. When we stopped and the door opened, I grabbed his leg, and we stepped into complete darkness.  Reaching over his head, I heard the tinkle of a chain and click the single light bulb illuminated the entire area.
While he went into the boiler room, I began to explore.  On the right side of the wall stood two massive white machines.  Moving closer, I realized they were the community washer and dryer.  Looking toward the left, I noticed my baby crib and an oversized chair surrounded by boxes.  I walked closer and peered inside of it.  Among the yellow sheets and old blankets, I spotted one of my baby toys.  It was an orange, stuffed owl.  I wound it up, and it twinkled with sweet music that bounced around the basement walls.  It was time to go.  I tucked the owl under my arm, walked into the elevator smiling up at his unshaven face and he smiled right back.  Tick-Tock.
I opened my wet eyes.  As I wiped away the tears, I noticed the hot sun had shifted directly over me.  Tick-Tock.  Sitting up, I leaned against the cold, hard stone.  Tick-tock.  Shaking my wrist, the over-sized watch slid down hitting the palm of my hand.  Once again, I closed my eyes.  Tick-Tock.
“Julie, can you grab that basket behind the lawn chair?” he asked.
I walked over to the brown basket, and as I leaned over to pick it up, droplets of sweat from my forehead hit the pavement.  Puerto Rico was extremely hot in July.  But I didn’t care.  The garden behind his house was amazing.  Not a very tall man, he had to use a ladder to grab the bananas from underneath the leaves.  While I found some relief from the heat underneath the large palms of the tree, I handed him the basket.  I watched with admiration as he selected the perfect fruit. 
“Graçias mija,” he said.
Next, we strolled around the yard and picked up some breadfruit that had fallen from another set of trees. 
“These will taste good with the tostones for later,” he said.  “Why don’t you check the avocado plant in the corner?” he asked.
Lifting the leaves of the plant, I found a large, green avocado hanging heavily on the branch.  I picked it and brought it over to the basket.
“This will have to sit for a few days before it’s ready to eat,” he explained.
I smiled.
“Don’t worry.  We will be here for an entire week,” I said.
He hugged me and I felt warm and loved.
That night as I lay in bed listening to the coqui frogs chirping outside my window and feeling a warm breeze float through the curtains, I thought about arriving to his house and hearing him call out my name with such joy, you would think we were meeting for the first time.   I enjoyed spending time with him.  I loved listening to his familiar stories about the army and watching his eyes light up with excitement.  Feeling special in every moment we shared, lingers in my heart.  Tick-Tock
I opened my eyes.  As I dabbed a tissue on my cheeks, I was relieved to see the sun had settled behind some trees in the distance.  Tick-Tock.  Now facing the stone, my fingers shakily traced the letters boldly engraved on the front.  Sitting on my knees with my hands holding the stone, I dropped my head and closed my eyes again.  Tick-Tock.
He stood proud at each graduation and birthday celebration. We danced at my wedding.  He visited new homes we purchased.  He held each of my girls after they were born.  He attended holiday gatherings and family meals.  His 98 year old body was tired. I will always cherish Hearing “I love you” for the last time as he lay in his bed.  Tick-Tock.
I remember watching as every corner was folded and each crease was smoothed when the flag was handed over.  Silence.  I saw them carry him away.  I clenched his watch in my hand. Tick-Tock
I opened my eyes once more and sat up straight and tall. The headstone read, Celso Rivera.  He was my grandfather, and I will always be his bird.


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